Just two weeks left for my brother’s wedding . Wedding is all I can think and talk about, like I had mentioned in my earlier post because I knew this would happen. So happy and excited. Clothes finally done, most of the wedding invites distributed, my relatives will fly down in less than 10 days time. Shopping won’t finish till the end, food tasting done, decorations still to finalize. Work and wedding preparations have kept me busy all this time. There’s too much going on at the same time at home and at work. My weekends have also been busy. For now just a small post, will be back on the weekend which is just a day away .
Yesterday I met a childhood friend of mine, she is married won’t say happily and now has a baby girl around 2 months old. I was accompanied with another friend of mine, we both singles. In some way I felt my married friend was jealous that we are singles. She was like so you guys have no responsibility, you guys can go and come anywhere at anytime, which is true. I have started liking the fact that I am not answerable to anyone, being single all this time now. She was like I know the grass is greener on the other side, that’s when I told her ‘the grass seems to be greener but trust me it’s not sweetheart’.
All these years I have noticed this pattern, married people thinking that if someone is single that person is the happiest. That’s not always true. Sometimes you are single because there’s no option due to a certain situations that has occurred in one’s life. Sometimes you are left single since there’s no other choice. Marriage is a commitment, a responsibility, where you always keep your spouse ahead of everyone and everything. Parenthood is a much bigger responsibility, which is the fact. Here your child becomes the first priority, even before your spouse and takes up your entire time. This I thought my friend should understand. She married thinking that she’s not getting any younger so it’s better to marry. Trust me she was young when she married. I feel age is just a number in today’s world. There’s no particular age assigned to marry. One marries when he/she knows and feels are ready to take the next step in their life. It’s a huge step in life. I am really happy for my friend she took that step 2 years back and now she’s blessed with a beautiful daughter. But at the sometime I feel now she shouldn’t regret or in anyway show that she’s jealous. It was her decision, no matter what the situation was.
Past few months I have learnt to be responsible for whatever situation I am in, may it be good or bad. No one forced me while I was making a certain decision. All were taken by me so today I have come to a point where I don’t regret anything in life. Reason being the decision maker was me. I have even learnt that it’s so easy to blame other’s for whatever wrong happens in our life. How many of us take the responsibility of our own mistakes? Very few. I have stopped blaming other’s if things have gone wrong because that was my decision and not someone else’s. The same way I came to a conclusion that my married friend should stop blaming other’s and even if small amount of regret feeling creeps into her again, she shouldn’t let that negative feeling win over. Forget the past situation and live in the present, happily. Live happily with her new family and the newest member in her family, who gave her a chance to be called and addressed as a mother. The best feeling ever. May God Bless the little angel and my friend !
May already started, just can’t believe that we are in the 5th month of this year. Less than a month left for all the pre wedding functions to start at my place. In 20 days relatives will fly down, we are yet to distribute the wedding cards, shopping yet not done, gosh there’s so much pending work to do and so little time. Time flies ! That’s all I can think of right now. My younger brother is getting married, it’s just unbelievable not just for me but for my family as well.
I still remember the times when my brother and myself would fight, argue and blame each other for every small things. Childhood days were fun. I am sure we all miss those days. For me it was crazy, especially with two younger brothers around. They both would gang against me for a match of wrestling, their favorite pass time. Growing up with siblings is always fun. Sometimes I so wish that we never grew up and remained kids forever. At the same time I feel if that was the case then how would we learn from our mistakes we made while growing up. How would we get a chance to move ahead in life. How and where would we meet those people who are or were a part of our life. How and from where would we attain wisdom and learn to take the right decisions, which we still don’t. Life is simple, it’s just us and our behavior that complicates it. Every situation, every step, every challenge teaches us something, whether we learn from it or not thats our choice.
Today, finally I got a chance to catch a breath and write something up. These few days have just been crazy but in a good way. Right from work to attending back to back zadankai’s (Monthly Buddhism Meetings) to trying to meet all my friends to spending some time with my family. Now when I have sometime for myself it’s actually hitting me that even April has come to an end and it’s my mom’s birthday this Sunday. I didn’t get any time to plan something special for her.
It’s been crazy, something that I like. We all like that, don’t we? Some of us are happy only when we are busy, have something to do. I must confess one thing though, I missed my space, the me time, the alone time. It made me think and wonder, how important is it to spend sometime alone with your self? Now I realize that for me it’s very important. It gives me time to think, to actually listen to my own thoughts and plan out some strategy about life accordingly. It rejuvenates me from within. Gives me time to connect to my inner self. Time to listen to some of my favorite songs. It gives me peace of mind, which no one or nothing can give me today. Time to meditate more and chant more and exercise. Time to read more posts and write more posts. Time to read a book… the list will just go on.
Everyday goes by so quickly, with some much to do in so little time. It becomes difficult to keep a track of time and our own thoughts. At times I have zoned myself out irrespective of the place and work. Travelled to my place and back to reality. I am the happiest when alone, this is one of the things I learnt about myself in these 7 months. No one likes or enjoys to be alone, but sometimes you don’t have an option.
There’s a line which I like a lot, ‘stop looking for a miracle, the miracle is you’ something like that. So ya I have stopped looking for a miracle or a change on the outside instead started searching for it inside me.
Just a month or so left for my brother’s wedding, preparations are still going on. The wedding card is selected and we will start sending the invites this week. The shopping is not going to end the till last minute and I am almost done deciding for a make up artist and a hair stylist. But what is that something which is missing inside me. I really don’t know. There are way too many things actually. Memories of my past, which doesn’t seem to leave my memory lane. But I guess this is why people say, that you only grow stronger when faced by a difficult phase in life. So smile and move ahead. If you fall then have the courage to stand up on your feet and walk ahead. Don’t give up. Courage is all you will need.
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So here are 7 things about Sonu Duggal :
1) I am a Bodhisattva in training.
2) I am grateful for this beautiful life and every single one in my life.
3) I enjoy spending time with nature.
4) Enjoy traveling and photography.
5) I even enjoy reading and writing.
6) I like the fact that I am a humble person.
7) I want to be an author and I plan to write a book soon.
Two and a half week back I had got a message, actually a ping on my Blackberry by my friend asking whether I would come over to her place and click fews pictures for her younger twin sisters’s. We have been friends since we were kids, actually she’s a close friend of my brother and like a family to us. Her younger sister’s are with Down Syndrome and trust me when I say that they are the cutest people I have ever met. Being twins yet they both are different in personality. Their parents have opened up a library for them and both the sister’s take care of that library, right from maintaing membership details to maintaining the track of new and returnable books and so on. They are 25years old, which is really hard to believe, such sweethearts and each other’s support system which is rare to find. They were going to run an article on them in one of the local edition which is distributed along with Times of India called the Times Neighbourhood of Lokhandwala, it is circulated in selected areas of lokhandwala so my friend wanted me to click few pictures for their library, knowing that I love photography. So the pictures I clicked appeared in today’s edition with my name on one of the picture. Just wanted to share one of the clicks by me.
You can read my name on the right side above the picture. The article is really inspiring and beautifully written. Today the collection of books in their library is around 3000 across all genres. I would just want to wish the sister’s All The Best and Loads of Love. They both are just amazing people and true angels.