A Day to Life Post- 88!

Since few days I have been pondering about one line that I read, which goes like “relationships never die a natural death. They are always murdered by attitude, behaviour, ego, hidden benefits and ignorance.” Well, I am not an expert on relationships considering my last relationship, but I think these lines make alot of sense.
Relationships are different types apart from that we share with our spouses throughout our life, some are a relationship of a mother daughter, of father daughter, friends, siblings, at work place with colleagues, with your boss and so on.. But what makes these make or break is all in the above line that I shared. Attitude becomes a major aspect in making or breaking a relationship. Different people have different attitudes, if someone’s attitude is nice then obviously your reaction is going to great too. But alot of time it doesn’t happen, it’s difficult to adjust, not everyone is easy to deal with.
Behaviour, again matters alot.. How does one treats you, behaves with you says alot about that person. I have come to realise that if the opposite person doesn’t respect you then he/she dont deserve you at all. The relationship with parents is totally different.
Ego most of the times becomes the 3rd person in a relationship. The minutes ego comes in between, be it any kind of relationship, the relationship is bound to go down the drain.. It’s a bitter truth. I have felt it.
I think we get into a relationship because most of the times we are scared of being lonely. We go to an extent that inspite of being humiliated and disrespected, we still be in that relationship, why? Because we fear to be lonely, hidden benefit. The minute we realise that it’s perfectly fine to be single and enjoy our freedom, then we welcome happiness in our lives. Like that every relationship directly or indirectly has a hidden benefit. Today, just sometime back I was encouraging someone that it’s fine to be single, you dont have to be answerable to anyone, you dont have to worry about anything, you can do anything you like. Dam! I just realised that this is too has a hidden benefit.. Lol!!
Last but not the least, ignorance. Ignorance is most common mistake we make in a relationship and this becomes the biggest weapon to destroy a relationship. Whenever one is ignored in any relationship, he/she starts losing self confidence in them, it just tears the relationship apart. I remember when I was reading biography on Steve Jobs, in that I read a line, which I cant remember exactly, that ignoring is the biggest crime in a relationship, which is so true. Ignoring your partner or kids or friends or work or siblings takes a negative toll on the other, the person starts to feel isolated and feels that he/she aren’t worthy enough to deserve your time or attention. Well, unfortunately this happened to me with my ex, I was completed ignored, sometimes for days at a stretch.. I did feel not worthy enough, lost my confidence and went into a shell, I stopped sharing things with him, and our relationship had come to a dead end.

I think what’s important for all of us to remember is that, it takes ages to build a relationship and a second to break it. A relationship is like a seed that we plant in our life, we have to nuture it, water it, feed it, give it proper sunlight for the roots to be strong so that the result will be a huge tree with green leaves which will bear beautiful flowers and fruits. If we dont do all of this, the plant wont survive at all. It will wither away in few days. Relationships are similar, we need to take care, if we dont it will break or die within few days. In the end the choice is ours!

A Day to Life Post- 87!

Finally I am back home, I reached few days back though I never wanted this vacation to get over ever. I was out for over a month and a half. It was full of soul searching, adventure, fun and meeting new people in life. Even the person whom I met on this trip, has returned back.. I think it was time that this person and I returned to our respective countries. The bond of friendship was strong, and hope it remains the same. It’s not everyday that you get to meet such people with whom you feel connected so easily and so soon.

Well, since the time I have come back, I got busy with my Soka Gakkai activities. We had our Soka Gakkai founding day on May 3 and since I am one of the block leaders, I was the incharge of the cultural this time along with 4 other leaders. This was the first time I was given a responsibility of something so big. Obviously initially I didnt know how to go about it, but then suddenly it hit me that I am the whole and soul of this group. First we had some 15 members wanting to be a part of the dance. By the D day, the final count was 17 members, and I had to choreograph the entire dance and teach the others.
Dancing has been my favourite hobby since childhood and I have learnt western forms of dances too, like salsa, jive and jazz. Salsa and Jive I learnt for around 4-5 months, it’s during this time I had met my ex 6 years back. And Jazz was for around 1 year. I have also learnt bollywood dancing, though I dont require it. lol :D
Being the YWD (Young Women Division member) I realised that the responsibility lied on me.. We put few bollywood songs together into a medley and ended it with a Gakkai song. We performed a fan dance on the Gakkai song. The meeting was on May 3 itself, it went good and so did our dance. Everyone loved it especially the fan dance.

I learnt alot during the rehearsals, especially one thing that was pointed out by one of the cultural incharge. Which was that I am a nice person, but people take advantage of my niceness. Being nice is my strength and a weakness too. When we had this discussion, I realised that he’s right, people do take advantage of me being nice towards them. I think this is one thing I need to work on, I should be nice to a person as long as the boundary isn’t crossed, also at the same time I shouldn’t come as a rude or an arrogant person. There’s a thin line between these two and I am glad it was pointed out. How do I get a balance is what I need to decide. That’s the only reason why I end up hurt all the time..Because I have seen one thing that unhappy are those who are genuinely nice people.. Because this world doesn’t understand nor deserve something nice.

My sudden plan of going on such a long vacation was that once again I was taken for granted in February end by someone who was once very close (my ex). Why? Just because I have always been nice towards him. There was so much of anger in me, this was in a way an act of retaliation. If you try to push the spring, it will always springs back, bounce back, hurting someone or the other.

Anyways, the bottom line is that I had an amazing holiday, met some great people. I guess that’s all that should matter.

My younger brother and his wife are expecting and the due is this month end. So, myself along with 3 of her childhood friends hosted a baby shower for her on May 2. We called her friends and cousins. I had sent out invites and was taking care of the give aways. The 2nd one was taking care of the decor, the other of food and the 4th one of games. We included my brother in it too and asked him to get the cake. So, yeah we divided the work among ourselves and it became easier for us to manage everything. It was a high tea baby shower and dress code was pink and blue, including the decor and the give aways. Due to my rehearsals I didnt get much time to put alot of thought into the gifts, but yet I managed to find small milk bottles filled with candies inside. And along with that I gave small baskets of chocolates. I picked up 2 different colors which were again pink and blue. It was a nice baby shower and surprisingly everything went smoothly.

Have an amazing week everyone!

A Day to Life Post- 86!

“Why do all good things come to an end?
Come to an end, come to an,
Why do all good things come to an end?”.

These are the only lines running in my head. I dont want such a beautiful trip to come to an end. I dont wanna say goodbye to myself. Its been 5 weeks and it feels as if I have found myself, finally! I feel so energised, I feel like a whirlpool and a power house which is packed with way too much of energy. I still have few more days before all this gets over, before I come back to my life back at home, but trust me I would rather prefer this life than the one back at home. Few more days of this trip, or maybe I might just end up extending the trip again. :)

The person whom I met plans to extend the trip too, so you never know, I might just end up staying for more days. I like it away from home, away from all the confusion, away from all the stress, away from all the clutter, from the mess up, it’s like out of sight out of mind. Life is way too messed up, well who’s life isn’t. This person hasn’t asked me anything about my past, this person doesn’t wanna know how messed up my life is, this person just wants to see me happy, this person has also started chanting with me.. How amazing is that!

I want to share a picture that I wake up to seeing every morning and chant looking at.

  

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This is what I wake up to every morning and chant, so who would want to go back. Not me! Life has never been so amazing, peaceful and I have never been so happy.

Have an amazing weekend everyone!

A Day to Life Post- 85!

What’s the best thing when you travel apart from seeing the place off course? The people that you meet during your journey. In my ongoing trip for over 3 weeks now, I met so many people, locals and people those are tourists just like me. And in this entire journey, I met a person who saw right through me, it was as if this person could see through my soul, who surprisingly read the sadness in my eyes during the first meet.

I have this werid thing, I am not good at hiding emotions, if I’m sad it’s seen in my eyes and if I am happy again it’s seen in my eyes. This person sensed that there’s something going on, this person sensed how unhappy I was inspite of being at the best location and instead of being happy, since I was traveling the world, I wasn’t really happy at all. This person could sense that how lonely I am in my life. That’s the reality of my life, which I have come to terms with. I have no problem with being alone, you aren’t answerable to anyone. And now I love the freedom.

We started hanging out and have become good friends. We talk so much about life, I really don’t remember when was the last when I spoke to someone so much, I don’t even remember when was the last time when someone just wanted to listen me talk. Trust me I can really talk when I want to but unfortunately since couple of years I had stopped talking, kept everything to myself because no one was there to listen to me. And now finally this person let me talk, lol.  We managed to meditate together and do a bit of yoga as well. Since we figured that we both are yoga lovers.

This person is also a traveller like me, so yeah some day we have to go back to our respective destinations. Recently I was telling a friend of mine that I don’t wanna come back to Mumbai, there’s nothing there for me. I don’t like that city anymore. All she said was, someday you will have to. Someday this journey will end. It is so true, no matter where ever we go and where ever we are, one day we all have to return to a place which is our own, home.

This person will also return back soon and we plan to stay in touch. Isn’t it amazing how people from different places with different background and culture and religion meet at an altogether different city just because we love travelling. This is the best part of travelling, you get to meet so many people and get to know so many cultures.

Just want to end the post with couple of more pictures.

Amazing snow clad mountains. Loved every bit of walking, trekking, lying down and making snow angels on them.

A Day to Life Post- 84! 

When I was deciding this trip of mine, I wanted it to be adventurous. I planned for few adventure sports that I could do, which were paragliding, river rafting and bunjee jumping. But out of these three just one was possible, which is paragliding. And trust me I have never felt so alive ever in my life before. Seeing the world from a different view altogether. The paragliding point was around 12000 feet high above, yes! The best part was it was from a snow clad mountain. I won’t deny that I wasn’t scared, I was a little but when the flight took off I forgot all my nervousness, all my problems and all the stress in my life. I for once felt as if I could touch the sky. Till today I used to always wonder what it would be to see the world from that height, when you aren’t in a closed airplane. I used to wonder what do the birds feel.. Now I get the point. I felt freedom, I felt alive, the adrenaline rush which I had never felt before. 

Now I why people choose these adventure sport has their life.. Now I know why they love the adrenaline rush so much. 

I did have a professional paraglider along who was operating the flight. But it was worth everything. 

Sharing with you all few pictures of the whole experience. 

   

  

 

The amazing snow clad mountains.  

 

A Day to Life Post- 83!

Travelling is what I love and travelling is what makes me alive. I’m living a nomadic life over 2 weeks now and trust me I’m just getting closer to myself and to Mother Nature around. And I’m loving it. 

Sharing few pictures with you for now. All I can say that the place I’m right now has a lowest temperature of -1 to -4 degrees almost every evening and walking almost 7-8 kms everyday. I’m loving it. I will make a post in detail once I’m back. 

Happy Sunday everyone ! 

 

 

Climbed a mountain of around 3000 metres high.  

  

 

A Day to Life Post- 82!

My silence is not my weakness.. It’s the beginning of my strength and it simply means that I dont find somethings important anymore.
This line has been running in my head since more than a week now. Doesn’t it give one a sense of achievement that finally you are not bothered with what people do? It does to me and it has only been possible because of my chanting.

Lately, I found myself being taken granted all over again by a person who was and is close to me. For me, after what I have gone through these 2 and a half years, it felt like deja vu and I am sure for all it’s not a great feeling at all. This person has always taken me for granted for the past 2 and a half years, and two weeks back it was the same. Why is it that when you have someone or something, we forget to value and appreciate them or it? It’s only when faith decides to take it away is when we realise it’s importance. I have asked this question way too many on my previous posts and trust me I always fail to get answers.

This time when I was taken granted for I simply did not allow it to affect me in anyway, I plan to move on. Move on to a better life, I realised that sitting and thinking about all these things is not going to give me anything, it’s better to not let this thing bother me at all. Which is not easy, but it is not impossible. It’s all about your dignity and self respect and no one else is responsible for it but we ourselves.

On March 1, I attended a study training course which was held by SGI Study Department Chief, who visited India from Japan, it was the first time that something like was held in Mumbai. The course was attended by 2500 leaders and I was one of them, including around 500 outstation guests from South and other cities of West India. From Mumbai we were around 2050 leaders, which was amazing. After listening to the study chief talk in Japanese, my friend and I decided to learn Japanese. I thought it would become easier to understand and feel more connected to the practice because Nichiren Daishonin was born in Japan. I am really looking forward to learn a new language, since I also plan to visit Japan soon. :)

Well that’s all for now. Will write soon! :)

Hope you all have a wonderful week!

Belated Happy Women’s Day to all the wonderful ladies! :)

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