Happy Diwali everyone ! Have a safe Diwali ! 🙂
India is in the mode of celebrating its biggest festival of the year, Diwali.. This year it will be celebrated on the 11th of November.. It’s the Festival of Lights and wherever you go you will see everything is lit up around here.. It’s amazing ! The market street near my house is already lit beautifully and so is my house.. We put lights on our windows.. I have always liked celebrating Diwali.. I don’t burst crackers but just the whole idea of wearing traditional clothes and getting dressed up is what I enjoy.. On 11th we will have a small puja at home.. We even light small diyas (oil lamps made of clay) for atleast 5 days during this festival.. Starting from two days before the main Diwali till two days after Diwali. We keep these oil lamps outside our house too, right at the entrance.. It is considered as auspicious..
I will be sharing a picture of the entire market that’s lit near my house.. People from all parts of the city come here only to see these lights.
The entire market street lit for Diwali
Happy Diwali in advance !
This entire week has been crazy.. My niece and her parents (my brother and his wife) have moved to their own house 2 days back and so has Ganeshji. Yes, since most of us know we here in Mumbai are celebrating the most loved festival, Ganesh Chathurthi that started from September 17 and it’s still going on. It is a festival celebrated in the honour of elephant God, Ganesha. During this time, we bring idols of Ganesha at home and worship Him. My family has been celebrating this festival for around 15 years now, and this year was way too special to us due to Shaira. At my place we bring Him for 5 days, and then on the 5th day immerse Him in the sea. The festival goes on for 11 days. All over Mumbai people have Him for different days, some might keep for 1 and a half day or 3 days or 5 days or 7days and finally for 11days. This time we had more guests than the previous year, which was amazing.. They all came to seek His blessings.
Lord Ganesha is considered as the God of power and wisdom. There are various stories associated that show how cleverly and coolly he used to deal with complicated matters.
We brought Him home on the 16th night, and on 21st was the immersion. These 5 days were filled with awesome food, lots of guests, fun, laughter, sweets and not to forget feeling blessed.
Since couple of years in Mumbai, we have now started having these artificial ponds, which are eco friendly and do not harm any marine life. Such ponds are ideal for idols that are brought at home because these idols are small, maybe not more than 3-4 feet. Our idol was 2.5 feet this year. The big idols, like 10 feet have to immerse them in the sea. But still these ponds have been a blessing, we have been going there since 3 years now, it’s hassle free, best part is that we know we aren’t hearing the marine life. I remember one year when we used to go to the beach to immerse the idol, there were way too many idols that were on the shore of the sea, and in a devastated state. Some didnt have hands, or head or a leg. It was really sad to see them in this state. We worship Him for so many days and in the end to see them like this was way too upsetting. So now we prefer the artificial ponds.
This year our idol was of red in colour and lots of diamond, pearl and coloured stones work. We offer Him food, fruits and sweets. Even the guests coming to seek His blessing offer either fruits or sweets or money. I would get fresh flower garland everyday. I am just sharing few pictures of Ganesha.
These pictures were clicked on my phone, hope it’s clear enough. Thank you all!
On June 5th, a little angel came into our lives.. She walked on her tiny feet, and filled our family with joy. My brother and his wife welcomed a little princess called Shaira, which means a princess and a poetess, making me an aunt. She’s the most adorable person I have ever met. Such a pure soul, such an innocent soul. I’m in love with her already. She looks like my her grand mom, i.e. my mom. Her cheeks are pink, like marshmallow. I have no idea where my day goes because I go to the hospital in the morning and then again in the evening. I have never fallen in love with someone so soon, but she is just out of the world. Well, right now I can’t share any of her pictures till atleast 40 days. But promise to share some pictures soon.
At the same time I miss my 1 and a half month long vacation. Where it was just me.. I wish I could turn back the time a little, I wish I could have spend more time with you. You made me understand how to become strong.
Well, at the moment I’m so happy and excited to finally know that an angel has walked into our lives. God Bless You Shaira. Your Aunt loves you a lot !
Have an amazing weekend everyone !
Hello everyone, yes I know it’s been a really long time since my last post, a month to be precise. Well, I think it was more to do with a writing block, I really didnt know what to write, to be honest I still dont know. When I sit down to write a post, at times there is a concept already in my head, and when the writing starts, I keep revising it. But today, I forced myself to blog hoping that my thoughts will come out.
This one month has been a bit interesting I think, though nothing has worked out on the professional end yet, but it did one thing for me, it made me realise my strengths all over again, patience and will power.
I am a person with little mood swings, one minute you will find me with full of energy and the other minute you will see me sitting silently without saying a word. Going for ample interviews made me realise that patience is the key to success. It made me think that you never know when the tables turn, today I went for an interview maybe tomorrow you are sitting in front of me as an interviewee. To be honest, I have never been so patience ever in my life before. I think everyone has their time, and my time will come soon. Maybe I shouldn’t write much about my interviews because most of the interviewers go through my blog. lol.
I guess this is life, everyday is a new lesson and everyday is a new beginning.
Second was my will power which I inherent, thanks to my late dad. He was a man of a very strong will power, whatever he achieved in life was due to his will power and intelligence. And I have been told many times by someone that I have the same will power. If someone faces alot of rejections, he/she are bound to feel dejected, and so did I. But what made me different was, I stood up and walked again, instead of giving up. I dont like to give up on anything in life, like you all can read in the tag line of my blog site, never give up. I think it’s very easy for a person to give up in life, be it anything, but it takes a alot of courage, handwork and strength not to. And I am a strong headed person, so giving up doesn’t happen easily to me. But if I ever do give up on something or someone, then I can never turn back to look at it again.
Last week I was promoted to a ywd block chief in SGI, which means that now I have the responsibilities of other members in my block and it is an amazing feeling. I attended my first area leaders meeting last week, there were around 50 leaders from all the districts present there, and to be a part of such amazing people was overwhelming for me. The entire experience was just unbelievable. I got to meet many senior leaders from other districts and in true sense my journey to kosen-rufu has just begun. That day sitting among so many members was like a scene from the Treasure Tower (a buddhist concept explained by Nichiren Daishonin where the ultimate reality exists) a “Ceremony in the Air”. I felt like we all were actually bonded when the Law was written. Yes, that’s how strong I could feel. It’s amazing what a responsibility can do to a person, especially when given a responsibility to spread happiness. All I have right now is lots of gratitude towards the practice.
Well, I guess I did manage to write finally, lol.
2014 is almost to an end, this year flew by so quick and not to forget that it has taught me many things in life. When I now look back at 2014 (though couple of more days to go for it to end) in a way I am grateful and thankful to all the lessons I learnt in the year 2014, because they have only made me a much stronger person. Today’s blog is like a flashback of my 2014.
There are way too many lessons I learnt after my break up in August this year, to begin with never lose your self respect. People will treat me the way I allow them to, so it’s upto me how I want them to treat me. Everyone has the right to protect themselves from being ill treated, there shouldn’t be any compromise on that. You need to maintain your self respect and dignity even if it requires to walk out of someones life if you have not been treated the way you had hoped.
Other thing what I learnt was never get bogged down no matter what. Life is a roller coaster ride, highs and lows are a part of it. When in difficult time or faced by a failure of any kind (work, relationships) one must never feel defeated, you should stand up and face the situation with courage and confident that this phase will also pass soon.
There was one another mistake that I did in 2014, it was bowing down to someone, which is considered as a sign of respect towards elders here. But what I now realise, is it only by doing so I will be able to show my respect towards the elders? No. Respect should be from the heart and not by bowing down in front of someone or touching their feet. If I dont genuinely respect them from all my heart then such gestures are meaningless. Also, I realised that everyone around me is equal, no one is superior, be it elders or even people those who are younger to me. I have never bowed down in front of my own parents or grandparents, then why should I in front of someone else. God made us all equal and that’s how we should all remain, because in my buddhism it is said that the day we forget we are all equal, we let the ego in us grow to an extent that gives rise to anger and the life state of animality in us. Such life states are called the TEN WORLDS. So, I have decided to treat each and every person as equal, which is as a Buddha. If I want to respect someone, it will be through words and actions and not by such meaningless gestures again.
After August, my best friend’s sister told me one thing, never give in all the love you have to one person, you should keep some for your own self until you meet the right person in life. I think it made a lot of sense. There are some of us who just shower the other with all the love you have, and when the relationship ends, you are left with nothing. This is one thing I dont plan to repeat again.
I keep reading a lot of quotes, the two which stuck onto me were, “Never run behind someone who doesn’t care” and “if someone loved you or cared for you truly, his/her actions would have spoken differently”. This was the biggest lesson of my lifetime. I know it took me many years to learn and understand this, but it will stay with me for the rest of my life.
I have always been a fun loving person, a person with full of life, always smiling and laughing. But in these 5 years, I realised that I had changed a lot, changed to be the kind of person how my ex wanted, which has now made me realise that’s not how a relationship work. If you try to change one another, that relationship wont last for a long time, because true love never demands change. Since August, I have gone back to my old self, which is amazing and to be honest I am loving every bit of my old self. I am happy than before because I have gone back to being the same fun loving person that I was 5 years back, and yes again I dont plan to change myself ever again for anyone in the future also.
Along with all this the biggest realisation that dawned onto me is that I am a Bodhisatva, I need to spread the Nichiren Daishonin’s buddhism, and make kosen-rufu my mission (which means to propagate the law). Since August, I have put in more time in Soka Gakkai activities, meeting other members more often, my chanting hours have also increased and I am doing my Human Revolution everyday in someway or the other and trust me it is an amazing feeling. 🙂
So, yeah this has been a summary of my 2014, filled with lots of emotions, realisations and lessons learnt. I dont regret anything because all the harsh situations have only made me more courageous, confident, wiser and I have come out as a winner. So no regrets at all.
I would also want to take this time and thank all you wonderful people whom I met through WordPress. Thanks for liking, following my blog and for the wonderful comments on my blogs. 🙂
I wish you all in advance a Happy New Year-2015! 🙂
Christmas and New Years are just around the corner and everyone is in the holiday mood, atleast I am.. 🙂 ..
Today I just wanted to share few pictures of the Christmas trees and the decoration that I have seen around my city, Mumbai. They aren’t many pictures, I am still waiting to go see some more of the decoration. Yes, we do celebrate the holiday season in high spirit. 🙂
Merry Christmas Everyone in advance and Happy Holidays! Will put up some more pictures soon. 🙂
Happy Weekend! 🙂
Is it true that when you stop trying to fix things, like a relation, you actually find happiness and freedom? I was trying to sleep and this line kept running in my head, I just couldn’t stop thinking about it at all. I am a big follower of Grey’s Anatomy and have been following the season 11 online.
The other day I watched the episode 5 where Callie and Arizona break up. The episode starts with them visiting a couple counselor to make their relationship work, and are asked to stay separate from each other inspite of staying in the same house. Separate rooms under one roof for 30 days without even talking to each other. Initially Callie is against it and is forced into accepting the decision in order to save her marriage. She breaks down the first day itself and talks to Arizona, who is strong headed and doesn’t utter a word. Somehow they manage to finish their 30 days and in the end Callie, who opposed this throughout, who always kept trying to save her marriage, who always kept fixing things, is the one calls it quits. Yes, somehow Callie realized in these 30 days that all this while she was suffocated in the marriage and was no longer herself. She wanted a break permanently in their marriage and no longer wanted to spend all of her time trying to fix something that she believed was broken already for far too long. She wanted to be happy again and didn’t envision that happening with Arizona. This episode ended with a line, “But no matter how hard we try, we have to realize, somethings can never be fixed”.
Once I finished seeing this episode, I had a smile on my face, especially after hearing the last line. A smile because I could see me and my ex in these two characters. I was the one who kept trying to fix our relationship all the time, which seemed like he didn’t want to. The day we broke up, I obviously stopped trying to fix something, all I had to do was think about myself, my happiness, my likes and my dislikes, and not what he wanted. For the first time I feel free, and trust me the taste of freedom is amazing. I have been in a relationship for like 15 years of my life, yes. First with my late fiancé and then it was my ex. All these years I never had the time to think about myself. And today, it’s all about me.
I could very well relate to a fictional character of Callie. Even that day after watching the episode, I slept with this thought, that I am free.
Being in a relationship is amazing, it’s a totally different experience, but when you are with the right person, situations always change, everyone has to go through some rough days and some happy days. During happy days, everything is great, even the relationship with your partner is great, but it is during the rough days the relationship is tested. Even I had great days with my ex, but when the tough days were bigger than our relationship. We couldn’t sustain, we tried making the relationship work twice but we failed. There’s no doubt my ex was a great guy once, but circumstances have changed him a lot now. It has changed me as well.
What I realized after the episode is happiness is important, there’s nothing wrong in thinking about my happiness. When I am happy I can keep others happy. Happiness for others and ourselves is equally important.
Have an amazing week everyone !!
So finally the Diwali is almost to an end. Can’t believe even Diwali is over. There’s a big market lane at about 2 minutes walking distance from my place and every year all the shop owners chip in money and one week before Diwali the entire market is lit with lights. It’s amazing to see and walk through the market, it feels as if all the stars are falling on you.
I clicked a picture yesterday and thought of sharing with you all along with a picture of me dressed up in Indian clothes during Diwali. I was wearing a pure silk saree which was bought from Kerala.
Hope you all had a wonderful Diwali !! 🙂